Will He Treat You Better, If You Lose Weight?

Will he love me more and treat me better, if i lose weight? Self-love Hey Happy Bae

If you are aiming to improve the way people are treating you, keep reading. Because just losing weight aren’t good enough.

No one will respect or love you more until you improve the way you respect, treat and love yourself. As simple as that.

The question, I got was about weight but in reality, it is not only about weight, losing or gaining. In fact, to make people treat you differently, you should do whatever it takes to make the best version of yourself. Love yourself to the extent that you wouldn’t put junk in your mouth, that you would run to the gym to look more fabulous in all outfits, be super healthy and keep working on your personality. Everything that will make you look better, feel more gorgeous and give higher confidence, you HAVE to go for it. Only with this approach the way people treated you will change. And actions speak louder than words. Especially, actions of true self-love.

I can give you a simple example, imagine that you got a guest at your home. The person who came looks messy, not fit, someone who eats junk and speaks nonsense. How would you treat him or her? Will you give this person your reserved wine and cut the best cheese or put the best snacks you got? Then imagine, that you got another guest a friend who is well dressed, super fit, who knows how to present her/himself from the best side. How would you treat such a person? I am sure you will make an extra effort to please him/her. So on which side would you like to be?

The idea, I am the way I am and will never change is just an excuse and not in trend anymore. Nowadays, there are so many techniques to improve yourself. As a Life Coach, I guided many people throw this hard self-development process.

I bet after this example you got the picture, how people perceive each other. We all say do not judge a book by its cover but unfortunately, we all do. This is why top politicians, top celebrities are trying to dress and look their best. Of course, the choice is yours but always remember, if you want anybody to treat you better, treat yourself better first and others will follow.

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Why Taking Full Responsibility Can Change Your Life Forever

I am sure each of us was blaming circumstances for personal or professional failure at least once. Some of us keep doing it regularly.

Recently I realized that for the past to years I had been living in a blaming circumstances mode.

We had to move to the new country with my husband because of his work. One of my biggest dreams was to achieve professional growth. But I’ve got stuck in the new country and every day I tried to find at least 10 reasons why I couldn’t work or open a business there. I decided that I didn’t know language and culture good enough, the economic situation was inappropriate, that I needed to work more on my idea and so many other things.

So I basically put myself, my dreams and goals in a waiting mode for around two years, while complaining about not favorable circumstances.

But the thing is that I was the one who decided to do it, the one who went into deep thoughts instead of taking action, the one who created limits in my head.

And you know what is the most tricky thing about putting responsibility for your life on others? One day you realize that it is totally out of your control.

So did I. Nothing seemed to depend on me, so there was no point to try changing things.

In psychology this behavior called playing a victim role.

So here is the main rule. If you really want to implement changes in your life, don’t be afraid to take full responsibility for it. Your past, present, and future depends only on you.

No matter how hard you try to blame others for the events of your life, each event is the result of choices you’ve made.

Please notice, that blaming yourself for the past mistakes DOESN’T MEAN taking responsibility. Blaming yourself, same as blaming others means being a victim of circumstances.

Taking responsibility means forgiving yourself for the past mistakes, accepting your past and taking 100% of control over your present in order to achieve the things you want in the future.

In order to create a positive habit, I suggest you to go through a 7-day challenge.

The rules are very simple. For 7 days you WILL:

• Stop blaming yourself and others;

• Stop complaining;

• Take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

Once you pass the challenge, please share your experience in the comments below.

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How To Make Your Relationship Stronger

I truly believe that a strong relationship is based on love. However, love is not enough. In order to have a healthy relationship, both partners have to be willing to work on it.

In this article I would like to highlight the most important points based on personal experience to keep a relationship strong:

1. Share happy moments together.

They make any relationship better. Travel and spend the most important celebrations together. Try new activities like snowboarding, bungee jumping or any other one you’ve always wanted to.

Also, these real emotions will help you to understand each other better.

2. Remain positive and support your partner during difficult moments.

If your partner has difficult times, he needs support and energy from you. Even if a bad situation happened because of his mistake or somehow affects you, the last thing he needs from you is blaming or being constantly in a bad mood.

Accept any difficult situation as a challenge and try to remain enthusiastic.

3. Talk about what you like and dislike.

By saying about good things you show your appreciation and gratefulness for what your partner does and who he is. Some people forget to do it and concentrate only on negative moments, which is a mistake.

Some women actually take the following strategy, based on their feelings: they get upset because their partners did something wrong (at least they think so) ▶️they don’t talk about what happened however try to show their dissatisfaction in lots of hidden ways. Here is a trick. How their partners are supposed to understand that they did something wrong? Nobody even told them anything. What they see is a constantly angry or upset women who tries to keep distance for no reason.

Taking decisions based on emotions would be too easy. The only solution which can lead to a healthy relationship in this situation is to discuss.

And in most cases after discussion, lots of concerns and fares just go away.

4. Remember that your partners your choice.

And it should be respected. Listen to his needs and concerns, show that you hear him and try to make it better.

Avoid using sarcasm during a conflict, be patient and remain calm.

And never be afraid to say “sorry” if you know that you might insult your partner by words or actions.

5. Don’t compare your relations to anyone else’s.

First of all, something that you see around maybe just a nice picture (especially when it comes to Instagram and other social networks). Also, every relationship case is individual.

If Linda’s husband brings her flowers all the time with or without occasion, it doesn’t mean that your husband should start immediately doing the same thing.

So any time you want to compare, keep in your mind point 5. Compare to others only for the purpose of calling attention to a partner’s strengths and talents.

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My Partner Cheated, Who is Guilty?

A relationship can be very complicated as it is between two people with lots of small or big differences. Dissimilarity could be in the way you both see the world, in the life values or just your backgrounds. If you ever been in a situation where your partner cheated on you, don’t blame yourself. The only person who is guilty in this situation is the one who actually did it!

It happened not because you are not good enough, not smart enough or not sexy enough. It happened only because your partner has problems with communication and lying. That’s all.

Is there a way to fix it?

Well, the answer is Yes and No.

YES – if you clearly said that you are not ok with cheating and your partner willing to change. He or she is doing everything possible and never repeating again this mistake. And who actually changed his/her values and priorities on this matter.

NO – if he or she is just a liar who doesn’t care about you, your feelings and who only thinks about him/herself. Then without collaboration from your partner’s side, you cannot influence the sick mentality and damage phycology of the person.

In conclusion, it is a very tough experience when your beloved one is not faithful. But if you are a person who cannot tolerate cheating partner and he or she is doing it again, the best way is to change a partner! It is hard but there is someone better for you out there with similar life values and the person who broke your trust 2nd time doesn’t deserve more chances. No need to waste your time on somebody like that.

Condoms Will Not Protect Cheaters

If you are thinking to cheat while you are in a committed relationship or already doing so, this post is for you. And by cheating, I mean the worth form of it, having sex with somebody else. Today, I will not be talking about the ethical side of this question and how this act can create phycological trauma and constant distrust in your partner. In fact, I would like to discuss something more deadly…

While having a pleasurable time with someone else you might get lots of deceases and kill your partner bringing it home. Even if you think you are smart enough and use condoms, you can still catch quite a lot. Condoms protect from getting pregnant but they do not protect fully from sexually transmitted deceases (STDs). There are lots of medical articles on the topic. Plus, what if it gets broken? It could happen very easily with the nails. Or after cheating a few times you might think it is safe to do it without condoms but you cannot scan a person if he or she has infections. Besides the most dangerous ones show after 3-6 months. Then you are exposed to the full encyclopedia of STDs. So it is actually a stupid gamble to satisfy itching between your legs. You are putting on the death trap not only yourself but a person who loved you and trusted you.

Of course, everything we have in our universe exists for a reason. Sexual diseases are just the tool to remove weakest individuals from our planet. Who act like monkeys or other animals without any sense of moral principles and respect to those around. The sad part of this that the innocent partners also have to suffer after the immoral act of one who they trusted.

In conclusion, if you are planning to have many sex partners, just never lie about it and never commit to a relationship with one person by confusing him/her. At least, if you will get some sickness, you will not be transmitting it to the honest and clean people who want to have real love and kids. Better to stay in the same circle of people who don’t care with who they slept last night.